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Plus Size Online Dating Tips
- Practice self-acceptance: Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder and when you look at yourself, it doesn’t help if you internally cringe at the idea of dating. You would be amazed to find the number of people who like their ladies to be curvy, and be proud about it! So accept yourself for who you are…love comes in all shapes and sizes. Give yourself a chance before you expect others to give you a second chance.
- Don’t assume what others think about you: who cares, it is not like you can make and regulate everyone’s thinking. So don’t even try, those are forbidden grounds. Rather, why not concentrate on how you can feel attracted to yourself…no it is not kinky. Only if love yourself enough to be attracted to yourself can you accept it when others give you genuine compliments. Or you will continue second guessing yourself and not even give the other person a chance!
- Be honest: be it while posting photos of yourself online, or talking to the other person. Don’t pretend to be something you are not, because the other person might not love the pretentious you and you don’t leave any scope for them to know and fall for the REAL you.
- Revise your self-descriptions in a positive way: If you are curvy, be bold and appreciate your curves…because only a chosen few are really blessed with gorgeous curves. Throw your negative self portrayal right out of the door and embrace a more positive attitude towards yourself. Unless YOU feel positively about your image, how can you expect someone else to look beyond the negative image you portray?
- Accept the idea of rejection: but don’t overrate it. Rejection has nothing to do with your plus size status. Even Angelina Jolie can get rejected! And don’t let the prospect of rejection stop you from giving yourself a chance at companionship and love.
- Learn how to accentuate the positive: Get over the so-called negatives and showcase your positive aspects. It can be your curves (no pun intended-they are genuinely gorgeous), your talents, your success…all the positives that make you.
- Dress for dating success: Don’t hold back when you dress up, but moderation is the key. Flaunt your best features and make up for the not so flattering ones. It is all about camouflage! But dress comfortably, that is way more important than dressing up.
- Don’t settle for less: Never underestimate yourself! And never settle for less than what you deserve. You are a marvelous person and don’t you dare settle for anyone and everyone. Choose the person who treats you the way you deserve- like a queen.Now that you have the hot tips for dating at your fingertips, just go for it girl!!
A southern country woman chasing my dreams to make every women feel beautiful in their own skin. I’m eager to work and to establish my Foundation in the industry; while motivating and inspiring others to uplift plus size women to rock their curves. I’m a single mom of 3, a lab technician in the chemical plants I go from steel toe boots to heels doing the best I can to support my household on my own I strive to show my kids I’m strong and hard working.
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9 Frustrations Of Dating While Plus-Size
Dating is not my forte. I’m bad at everything from the awkward conversations with people I don’t know, to mingling uncomfortably with strangers at parties. It’s not that I’m an introvert or anti-social (alright, fine, I’m anti-social), it’s just that over the years I’ve found that dating, as a plus-sized woman, is more of an exercise in patience and frustration than it is one in romance.
1. Your Body Becomes A Sexual Fetish
There’s nothing more frustrating than spending the evening with someone so shallow they’re the human equivalent of a puddle. Although everyone is attracted to different people, and there’s nothing wrong with that, there’s nothing worse than being fetishized for your body type (and nothing’s less romantic than being leered at you while you eat your food). Being attracted to plus-sized individuals is great (there’s even a strip club for BBWs in Vegas), but only valuing them for their weight and not for who they are is a big problem. It’s not being body positive and it’s not forward thinking — rather, it’s dehumanizing and not OK.
2. People Automatically Think You Put Out
Set non-scale goals.
Don’t let the scale be your only barometer of success — look for other signs that you’re getting stronger and slimmer. Have you lost an inch off your waist? Are you using heavier weights than you were last month? Can you hold a 10 seconds plank longer? Do you see a thinner profile when you look in the mirror? “Focus on non-scale victories, like how you’re feeling during the workouts and if you have more energy during the day,”.
That includes emotional victories, too, such as feelings of pride and confidence following a tough workout. The keys to meeting fitness goals are to stay positive and not get discouraged. Stay consistent and be patient — results will come. “After a tough workout, a lot of people feel like a new and improved version of themselves, regardless of how much weight they have lost,” .
Powerful words from Ashley Graham